Platform 13 @ Soulstice - "Enoughness" -

I was very glad to learn..."enoughness" is a real word. The OED has references going back to 1873. So there. We have had issues around this word for years. Enough already...I think we get the meaning, without needing to open the dicionary. It deals with our sense of sufficiency - being adequate - the quality of our self-worth. 150 years later, our culture still makes "enough" a struggle.

The issue is both classic and central to society. We judge oursleves to be not enough across almost every metric that we can put in front of the word enough. Thin, rich, spiritual, determined, balanced, healthy, successful... fill in the blank ad nauseam.

To many, it can be a motivational "driver". To work harder for a promotion, to loose those extra 20 lbs, to nobly strive further across an entire rainbow of meaningful and challenging deliverables. But the caveat here is well documented - all of that striving comes from the baseline proposition, that as we are, there is something inherently and very currently "wrong with us" and that is where the problems start.

Let's step back for a second... Enoughness - is actually a pretty ancient principle that has been modernised and applied to contemporary culture. It is increasingly applied and positioned as a "softening". A letting-go of striving. A decision to be happy with both what we have, who we are and how much we weigh - and to therefore stop "reaching". But this framing seems more than a bit reductive and misses something crucial - to ensure that we "keep the lights on" in all of us - lights that we ought to really strive not to turn off.

The essense of enoughness is not about "opting out" of purposeful, focused effort. It is more concerned with choosing the right direction for it. I mean there is nothing wrong with striving when it is not married to accumulation, or sat next to a borrowed sense of self. What about striving to be a better friend, or to contribute and participate more? There, we might have seen a teeny, tiny shift from striving beginning with inadequacy, to ambition related to ability... and framed like that, who wouldn't want to strive a bit?

Ambition for ourselves, asks us this - How fully can I become who I am? And as that apperture opens gradually to take in the majesty of that thought process, the question also widens...Where does that all land? Who does it touch? What does it affect? Who does it serve? There is a comforting absence of measurable metrics here. None are even implied. No 20lb weight loss, no pay rise, no gym membership.

"What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make"

Dr Jane Goodall - 1934 - 2025

It seems that we really need to take a look at definitions. To re-define "enough" is to perhaps allow that unhelpful sense of insufficiency fall away. Otherwise, the low and heavy ceilings of scarcity, will drive us bonkers. What we might need here, is a philosophical and existential reorientation. Enoughness is not about wholesale compromise, or settling for less, and its definition seems more refined when we frame it around shifting the way we measure (and the value we attach to) "worth".

You see, much of modern discussion around the insuffieciency culture, schools us in comparative value terms - Am I doing as well as her? Can I paint as well as him? Do we "measure up" to them? In this framework, “enough” is always deferred. It relies entirely on external benchmarks and outsourced, imagined ideals - other people’s stuff.

A real sense of Enoughness interrupts that pattern. Enoughness is the state of being content with who you are and where you are — the foundation on which joy and true fulfillment become possible. So it's not a suitcase to pack - it's a decsion to make. A statement that allows us to honour who we are and the impact we can create. The decision to be content in this very moment. Without enoughness, it becomes difficult to access that important sense of "satisfied". Insufficiency, or as I will now call it, despite the thin red line of spellcheck, - "Not-enoughness" - tells us the status-quo is always off. That we always need to be and have more.

"Not-enoughness" keeps us striving to become more than what we currently are, through inherent dis-satisfaction. And in those moments, we discredit ourselves — which is the opposite of gratitude and self-acceptance. And where there is no gratitude or self-acceptance, there is often very little joy.

I write this as I see myself in the middle of a river, navigating stepping stones. I have fairly horrible balance, but I see where the next leap needs to land...OK, so...

...Enoughness is not the end of growth. It does not mean stagnation, complettion or buying the t -shirt. Enoughness should never cancel out ambition, just the ambitions that grow their roots in shame.

Enoughness then, is our collective delaration. Our statement of fact. We are enough. We can start to practice it, and to hold space for it. It is a box just full of gifts.

The Soulstice journey to Enoughness

The joys that flow from a balanced and true sense of enoughness are uncovered both thoughtfully and comprehensively at our Soulstice Immersions. To discover more and to see if this feels right for you, take a look at - https://www.platform13.life/soulstice-marketing

Enoughness matters deeply, for the women thinking about, mulling over or preparing themselves to consider joining the Soulstice Immersion experience. Because Soulstice is not where you come to get fixed. It is somewhere you come to be met.

Our wonderful coaches, Terri and Sanela create a relational field where Enoughness becomes that glorious statement of self. If you are yearning to enter a space where you grow from enoughness and want to explore more, connect with us to chat with Terri or Sanela directly and see if the experience is right for you.

Hey...What if you already belong here?