Regret - The tender trap of "if only"...
- May 18
- 7 min read
Updated: Jul 25
There is something very unsettling about regrets. With me, they have a score of almost zero on the mental, feel-good scale. A bin of despair, out of which we must occasionally haul ourselves, using the ropes of clever mantras and helpful sayings, like "Well if I hadn't have done that, I wouldn't be where I am now" - wordy platitudes, which while indisputably true, barely contain the comfort of a decent slice of chocolate cake.
Regrets are our mental, feel-bad reels. Wholesale trickery and hocus-pocus. The most curious definition of regrets I have heard all day, is the one that the clever people with couches use: They call regrets "counterfactual thinking" describing thus, the mind's habit of not only imagining, but building whole scenarios around - wait for it - alternative versions of things that never actually happened in the first place...
